Saturday, December 14, 2019
This is the time of year when many of us engage in family conversations - sometimes about grandchildren, sometimes politics, sometimes previous generations and who knows what else. Sometimes around the dining room table, sometimes in the living room and, I suppose, maybe even online.
There’s a couple of topics that traditionally don’t make the list – our own aging and dying.
Our current cultural narrative about aging is that old is bad, that life peaks in middle age and it’s all downhill after that. (This is actually self-fulfilling prophecy.) Who wants to talk about that? Also, most of us are deathly afraid of our own mortality (no pun intended), so why bandy that topic about over dinner? If we do talk about dying it is usually somebody else’s death.
There is no getting around some of the difficult changes we experience because we are aging, i.e.… read more
Sunday, November 24, 2019
I’ve been a pretty good athlete for most of my life. I played organized varsity level sports through college, and I’ve stayed active over the ensuing 50 years. To this day, I remember specific amazing plays or passes or throws I made, and I can still feel my own immediate… read more
Monday, August 12, 2019
Recently, I moved into a wonderful historic building which has been converted into affordable apartments for older people. It has been a pleasure meeting other residents – our ages spanning five decades.
One day I shared the elevator with a petite octogenarian who was holding onto a walker and sporting… read more
Saturday, August 03, 2019
"A self that goes on changing is a self that goes on living." Virginia Woolf
Whether we realize it or not, most of us hold the view that in our aging and dying we are trying to make the best of a bad situation. This deeply ingrained view is based… read more
Friday, July 26, 2019
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ― Howard Thurman
Over the past year there has been a lot of talk in our towns about equity. And rightfully so. The documentary… read more
Wednesday, April 03, 2019
Last week I participated in a dementia exposure exercise at River Forest Village Hall. This program was another step in the Dementia Friendly River Forest process. The program took about 30 minutes. I experienced some managed sensory alteration. It was powerful, undeniable and humbling.
Even though I knew the… read more
Sunday, January 13, 2019
The Dakini Speaks
My friends, let’s grow up. Let’s stop pretending we don’t know the deal here. Or if we truly haven’t noticed, let’s wake up and notice. Look: Everything that can be lost, will be lost. It’s simple — how could we have missed it for so long? Let’s… read more
Thursday, December 27, 2018
The other night I watched the movie The Matrix. I hadn’t seen it since it first came out in 1999, when the Wachowskis were still brothers. That’s 20 years ago. I liked it then, and I still do.
I don’t watch movies at home very often. I don’t even have… read more
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Wednesday, November 07, 2018
The other day I caught a glimpse of myself as I passed the hallway mirror. I stopped and backed up a few steps for a longer gaze. What grabbed my attention was a flap of skin. I know I had seen it before, just under my chin and above my… read more
Tuesday, October 02, 2018
From The Book of The Garden by Richard Wehrman
The Garden releases its last radiance, not as something failed, but as its full reason for being: to give continually, to its last bit of energetic being. Its giving is its beauty. It is… read more
Wednesday, September 05, 2018
Getting old is like climbing a mountain; you get a little out of breath, but the view is much better!
Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been.
The last third of life gives us the opportunity… read more
Saturday, August 04, 2018
I recently attended an indoor public event, and sitting in the audience, off to my right, directly in view, was an old man in a wheelchair. Can you picture him?
Last week, in downtown Oak Park, I noticed an old woman walking slowly on the sidewalk, hunched over her walker.… read more
Tuesday, July 10, 2018
I work out regularly at the local tennis and fitness center. I’ve been a member there for many years, and I love their Yoga Centre. One day last week, as I passed the front desk to flash my membership card at the small entry turnstile, I was slowed by the… read more