Thursday, May 06, 2021
Three days ago, I had a face-to-face meeting with another person for the first time in over a year. Two days ago, I had coffee on my front porch with a friend for the first time in over a year. Yesterday, accompanied by my daughter, I went shopping at Costco for the first time in over a year. What a week, and what a year.
It felt like the ‘old normal’: my meeting lasted for 2 hours and we could have kept going; I still make my coffee too strong; I spent more than I needed to at Costco. Some things never change.
Before you read any further, let me be clear – I am not advocating stupidity. For those of us who have been so careful for so long, abandoning caution now would be plain stupid.
My face-to-face meeting was outside, both of us vaccinated, sitting at each end… read more
Thursday, March 25, 2021
Aging from the heart doesn’t happen to everyone, but it can. I think it’s happening to me.
I didn’t have any negative reaction after I got my first Covid-19 vaccination. I kept hearing rumblings about possible intense side-effects after the second shot, especially if the first went smoothly. Being aware… read more
Sunday, February 28, 2021
There are six myths about old age: 1.That it’s a disease, a disaster 2.That we are mindless 3.That we are sexless 4.That we are useless 5.That we are powerless 6.That we are all alike
I suspect that most of us don’t think about our older-selves-to-be… read more
Saturday, January 02, 2021
We’re trying to get through this with a vaccine without truly exploring our soul.
We have to take off our shoes and socks and walk in the dirt of 2020. Dig into it with our toes. Feel it give a bit under our feet.
You want… read more
Monday, November 30, 2020
“The deceivers started with self-deception…No matter how large the tissue of falsehood that an experienced liar has to offer it will never be large enough…to cover the immensity of factuality.”
This coming Friday morning at 10:00 am, please join us online for a free showing of the… read more
Saturday, August 29, 2020
To those of us in our last third of life, we’ve both been here before and we’ve never seen times like these.
You may think I’m referring to the deep political polarization surrounding the impending election, or the normal-changing worldwide pandemic, or perhaps the global anti-racism protests, or possibly the… read more
Wednesday, August 05, 2020
Last week I watched A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood, starring Tom Hanks as the inimitable Mr. Rogers. The film is not so much about Fred Rogers as it is about his relationship with a journalist assigned to profile the children’s TV personality for Esquire magazine. Two of my main… read more
Wednesday, July 08, 2020
In my recent blog post titled “scared and pissed off”, I misattributed a quote from the movie ‘Alive Inside’. It was spoken by the director, Michael Rossato-Bennett, not by Dr. Bill Thomas. I apologize to Michael Rossato-Bennett and for any confusion that may have resulted.read more
Monday, June 29, 2020
“There is a touch that takes a lifetime to achieve. Locking this touch away is like stripping from ourselves part of being human.”
Michael Rossato-Bennett, from the movie Alive Inside
A few weeks ago, the Wabi Sabi Film Festival presented a free digital screening of the movie Alive Inside.… read more
Sunday, May 10, 2020
APPRECIATE WHAT WE'VE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.
The external conditions of pandemic, along with the natural process of aging, have caused many of us to gain some insight into and appreciation for what we’ve taken for granted, large and very small. I woke up thinking about the lyrics to “Big… read more
Saturday, May 02, 2020
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Last week I noticed I was running low on shaving cream. In the old days – and I don’t mean the 60’s – I would have tucked that away in… read more
Tuesday, March 31, 2020
The revered spiritual teacher Ram Dass, who recently died at age 88, observed that people have no difficulty being called an old soul but do not want to be called an old person. What a paradox! Accrual of wisdom is viewed as a positive attribute, yet aging is denied and… read more
Sunday, March 29, 2020
“What happens next depends largely on us—our government, politicians, health institutions and, in particular, 328 million inhabitants of this country—all making tiny decisions on a daily basis with outsize consequences for our collective future.”
‘How we conduct ourselves in the next several months will impact our children,… read more
Friday, March 13, 2020
We can no longer take for granted what we used to take for granted. This has been true for some time, but the COVID-19 pandemic brings it into sharp focus.
Hugging someone hello. Shaking hands. Picking up our grandchildren from school. Feeling invincible. March Madness. Worshipping with others. All this… read more
Sunday, March 01, 2020
If self-criticism were a disease, it would likely dwarf other epidemics.
The Fetzer Institute
The Jefferson Airplane sang “life is change…”. Wabi sabi is about appreciating the beauty of impermanence.
Embracing the inevitable changes of our continued living can be a hard row to hoe. One of… read more
Saturday, February 01, 2020
SEEING WHAT IS MOST REAL IN THE MIDST OF WHAT IS MOST FAMILIAR
(This column was recently posted as a blog on the Institute Of Noetic Sciences (IONS) website)
I’m reading a book written by David Brooks titled The Second Mountain. In it, Brooks discusses the difference between a career… read more
Saturday, December 14, 2019
This is the time of year when many of us engage in family conversations - sometimes about grandchildren, sometimes politics, sometimes previous generations and who knows what else. Sometimes around the dining room table, sometimes in the living room and, I suppose, maybe even online.
There’s a couple of… read more
Sunday, November 24, 2019
I’ve been a pretty good athlete for most of my life. I played organized varsity level sports through college, and I’ve stayed active over the ensuing 50 years. To this day, I remember specific amazing plays or passes or throws I made, and I can still feel my own immediate… read more
Monday, August 12, 2019
Recently, I moved into a wonderful historic building which has been converted into affordable apartments for older people. It has been a pleasure meeting other residents – our ages spanning five decades.
One day I shared the elevator with a petite octogenarian who was holding onto a walker and sporting… read more
Saturday, August 03, 2019
"A self that goes on changing is a self that goes on living." Virginia Woolf
Whether we realize it or not, most of us hold the view that in our aging and dying we are trying to make the best of a bad situation. This deeply ingrained view is based… read more